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m.08 · II · Influence & Lead · Building & Leveraging Your Network

The 3-a-Week Rule & Meaningful Requests

Cross & Thomas · networks are built in 15-minute increments.

Your network is not who you know; it is who will take a call from you on a bad day. It is built not in conferences but in habits — three deliberate outreaches a week, one bridging request at a time, mapped across seniority and difference. Most of senior-career outcome variance comes from this, and most senior people stop doing it right after the promotion that most needed it. — after Cross & Thomas

3 contacts a week.

One old, one new, one from your cohort. Every week, for the rest of your career.

Network diagram Hub-and-spoke network with you at the centre connected to: OLD, NEW, COHORT. you OLD NEW COHORT

Named ideas to remember.

3 / week rule · LPO course
1 old contact reactivated · 1 new contact made · 1 cohort contact reinforced · + 15 min daily LinkedIn
Consistency over intensity. Three is the number.
Meaningful Requests 6-step · Cross & Thomas
Target · Purpose · Questions · Ask · Referrals · Follow-up
A good request is small, specific, and ends with "who else?".
Network Map — seniority × difference · LPO custom
Y: seniority (yours → more senior) · X: difference (same as you → very different)
Most people over-index on same-level, same-type. Bridge deliberately.

This week.

  1. Pick the three. One old (lost touch), one new (not yet met), one cohort (just because).
  2. Make a meaningful request to one of them. Small, specific, ends with "who else should I talk to?".
  3. Map your network on seniority × difference. Where are the gaps? Fill those first.
  4. 15 minutes on LinkedIn, daily. Not scrolling. Engaging. Commenting, congratulating, asking.

Key reading · HBR · Cross & Thomas

A smarter way to network.

Research on how executives reach senior roles shows that the common thread is not intelligence or ambition — it is having a diverse, bridging network that they invested in before they needed it. Most high performers at middle levels miss this and rediscover it only when they're stuck.

Build it before you need it.

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